I love you
Please forgive me
Also spells: FREEDOM. These four simple statements can do a Ctrl/Alt/Delete on repeating negativities hanging out – and often wreaking havoc – in our subconscious mind. Want to be happy? Live in the moment? Reach your full potential?
Try something a little harder to spell: Ho’oponopono. As explained last week, this is an ancient Hawaiian meditation literally meaning ho’o “to make”, pono “right”, pono “right”. The double use of the word “right” is key. To me it means to make what was once right right again. As stated in an excellent YouTube video you should check out, Ho’oponopono – Feel it!, “We are all perfect, what is imperfect in us is our memories and programs.” So why not Ctrl/Alt/Delete the imperfect by repeating the above four simple statements? “To whom?” you may ask. Well, for many it’s simple. It’s God, the Divine. Too big of a stretch? Then it’s still simple. The self that sits above you and wants the very best for you. Your Higher Self.
“I love you.” The uttered words we long for in a romcom, but also expressed quite often, hopefully, toward family and close friends. Why not say them to your three selves? Low, Middle and High? All three of you deserve to hear it. Often.
Ah, but what about toward someone who has hurt you, mentally or physically? Someone who has really pissed you off? Immensely? I love you? Are you kidding me?
Ancienthuna.com describes the process of Ho’oponopono toward others:
- Bring that person to mind.
- Put them on a small stage below you.
- Imagine an infinite source of love and healing above you (your Higher Self), open up your head and let it flow in, filling you up, overflowing your heart and healing that person on the stage.
- When the healing is done, forgive each other.
- Watch that person float away.
- The test? Can you see this person, or think of them, and not feel negative emotion? If you still do, repeat the process.
I know. This is a lot of visualization, difficult perhaps if you’re not familiar with meditation. And truly challenging if you’ve been in, say an abusive relationship. But I get excited just knowing healing is possible. Says that YouTube Feel it! video, “When we are conscious that we are 100% responsible for everything that we manifest in our lives then we accept our problems as a chance to clean them from our lives.”
Ancienthuna.com gives a good example of a situation requiring forgiveness. “ . . . let’s say your five-year-old grandson punched another five-year-old intentionally with hate in mind. If asked, then the one who was punched would forgive the other immediately, because it is inappropriate for anyone to carry guilt any longer than they had to, if it were not necessary.
“We call this the Hawaiian Code of Forgiveness, and it’s an important thought, because when we forgive others, who are we forgiving? Ourselves, of course.”
Our culture doesn’t have a Code of Forgiveness, does it? Unfortunate, don’t you think? Neuro Linguistic Programing (NLP) (an approach that claims the connection between neurological processes, language, and behavioral patterns can be changed to achieve goals) has a saying. “People are only doing the best they can with the resources they have available.” I don’t swear very often, but I think it’s appropriate here. We fuck up sometimes. My late husband Hugh used to say, “Oopsi.” A lot. Remember the Lord’s Prayer? “And forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”
Singer-songwriter John Prine said it best in Fish And Whistle. “Father forgive us for what we must do, you forgive us we’ll forgive you, we’ll forgive each other till we both turn blue, then we’ll whistle and go fishing in heaven.”
Just turn blue already, forgiving all over the place, so you can be light enough to go whistle and fish.
Want another reason? Your Western doctor won’t agree. Trust me. I tried to get mine to admit that perhaps my blown thyroid was stress-related when symptoms came on after yet another death in the family. Says bettyphillipspsychology.com, “Hawaiian doctors knew that conflicts and grudges eventually cause disease.” You’ve probably seen it before. It breaks down to dis-ease, right? Holistic approaches to health take this into consideration.
From Feel it!:
“I love you because I know I’m part of the Divine and therefore perfect in my home.
I’m sorry that I have expressed this problem in my life, since I am 100% responsible for her.
I’m asking forgiveness for myself and so I will be releasing.
Thank you for this problem that has manifested in my life, so I have one more chance to clean it.”
And yet again, problems become opportunities.
Website picture is of me doing Ho’oponopono fireside, wearing the black onyx strength mala from Tiny Devotions.